When It Comes To Fitness, Marry Up

Life legitimately hates me. Okay, so it’s more like life is that annoying kid in preschool who chewed on your favorite red crayon, but still. Life is messing with me either way.

Remember yesterday when I said I wasn’t doing anything until the snow melted. I was super excited about having an excuse to do nothing but stare out the window, ya know? Well, the snow immediately started to melt. At this point, I am going to refrain from ever making such bold statements about being lazy ever again. Life likes to publicly mock me and make me get up and do things.


After I took an inappropriate amount of time to mourn the loss of my beloved snow, I finally got a ton of stuff done. That’s actually a lie. I still didn’t do that much. I washed some dishes and then made dinner and created a whole new batch of dirty dishes. Vicious cycle. Anyway, after Maddux went to bed Ryne explained to me that it was time to work out. Um. Hold up. He must be siding with life. I said I didn’t really want to do anything, and clearly neither of them were paying attention. Even though I asked y’all for some good workouts yesterday, I still had it in the back of my mind that snow day = rest day. Ryne didn’t agree.

We ended up doing the same upper body workout we completed last week, and I did even better. Next week, I’ll get to go up in weight. Thug status. That means I’ll have to do 20 lb dumbbell curls, which will be 100 percent laughable.

As we were working out, I realized that I was extremely glad he forced me politely asked me to work out with him. When it comes to fitness, you really should marry up. Ryne is my fitter half, and I’m okay with it.


When we work out together, we are totally besties. I spot him, he spots me. I encourage him, he encourages me. Picture birds flying in the window and resting on the Olympic bar, deer flocking from miles around to watch us complete our rows, and a cute little chipmunk in the corner singing “We are the Champions”. That’s how harmonious it can be up in our gym. It’s like if Disney met Crossfit. I’m totally joking. We argue in there just like we argue anywhere else. But the fact is, we push each other to work out. And that’s a great thing. I like knowing that being active will always be a priority for us because it’s something we agree on completely.

Think about it. People always encourage couples to discuss serious “issues” before marriage: kids, religion, if they’d pull the plug on each other… you know, the usual stuff. They rarely tell you to discuss fitness. Luckily for me, I met Ryne right around the time I wanted to make some changes when it came to my health. If we didn’t share those interests, our relationship would have been much different in the long run. To top it all off, I might not have become as passionate about remaining active as I did. So, yeah, I’m totally glad I married up. ;)

I also know we are perfect for each other because he doesn’t stop me from eating all of the good chunks out of the icecream. That would have been a deal-breaker. What about y’all? What are your non-negotiables when it comes to relationships?


  1. says

    I’m the same way–I want someone who is fitness oriented; if they’re not willing to go to gym I at least need the support.
    Another one is being willing to make the same sacrifices. I recently just got out of a long-term relationship because I was willing to move across country for him. Unfortunately I knew that if roles were reversed it most likely would not be the same outcome.
    Better to know now than later though :)

    • Presley says

      Definitely better to know now! & I agree. I don’t need the person to work out with me, but I want them to support me (and vice versa).

  2. says

    Don’t know what my non-negotiables are yet (still just trying to figure out dating), but finding an active more-than-friend is definitely near the top of my list. I feel like it just says so much about a person’s energy level and self-respect. And active dates are the most fun!
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  3. says

    Haha! I’m happy that you can work out with your husband at the gym… I usually just get intimidated by all the buff dudes by the weights and then am convinced I shouldn’t be there. But it’s okay, JW’s tried stuff he isn’t good at either – he accompanied me to a yoga class and I still smile when I think about it. A non-negotiable for me would be the desserts… JW’s alllways up for dessert. My kind of guy!
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    • Presley says

      We are lucky enough to have a small home gym. I can look as dumb as I want in there! OMG, I cannot even picture Ryne doing yoga. I know it would be hilarious.

  4. says

    I always love your posts. They make me laugh several times. Love that :) I also love the concept of marrying up fitness-wise.

    I feel like Scott and I are pretty even on the fitness scale, however, I am way more into cardo and he is all about weightlifting. Sometimes he has to negotiate me joining him into reps by offering foot rubs after. It tends to work. ;)
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    • Presley says

      I love cardio way more than Ryne, too. We force each other to do the opposite workout, which is probably a good thing!

  5. says

    That’s awesome that your husband is also your best fitness friend! I thought mine was: he played varsity rugby and was also I the Kinesiology program, but he got REALLY sick (viral encephalitis) when he was 25 and has never returned to working out. It really does make it harder to motivate yourself if your partner does not share the same fitness philosophy as you. Congrats on finding such a great partner for you!
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    • Presley says

      I hope what I said didn’t come across as insensitive to people who can’t work out together for health reasons! I feel terrible that I didn’t even think of that at the time.

  6. Amanda says

    My husband and I are currently training for a half marathon together. I’ll have to admit, I wasn’t actively seeking someone on my fitness level, but for some reason all the others didn’t work out… haha. My non-negotiable was definitely finding someone who could deal with me being a mechanical engineer and all that comes with it. I am very mechanically minded and I don’t always want someone to take care of me. I can be very.. uh.. “strong willed” at times.

  7. says

    I completely agree with you that people should be on (or close to) the same page in their fitness and lifestyle. Another important factor is to have support from your partner. My husband may not run to the extent that I do, but he is an awesome cheerleader and supports me at all of my races. If he didn’t, I could see it becoming a big problem in the relationship. Plus, I think it’s sexy when a man cares about his health and enjoys physical activity. :)
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    • Presley says

      Yes! As long as the support is there, I’m good. And, actually, one negative of us both being fitness minded is that we can forget to cheer on the other one if we are wrapped up in our own workout. We’ve been working on that!

  8. says

    I so agree with that. My husband enjoys fitness as much as I do and it makes our life much easier! I can’t imagine having to work our schedules out to accomodate different activities if one of us went to the gym at night and the other didnt.

  9. Rose says

    Hmm, I’ll admit it would be nice if my boyfriend went to the gym with me.. He plays baseball and a few other sports, and he’ll go on a walk or hike with me any day of the (SUMMER) week, or do fun things while travelling like canoe or snowboard! But he’s against the gym haha. He’s very supportive of me going and so that’s really all that matters. I do think it’s kinda nice to have a ying to my yang type thing where he can relax me in that sense. We have a lot of that. He’s a worrier/planner, I’m a go with the flow-er.. I cannot imagine if we were the same! Either nothing would get done or we would be miserably productive.

    • Presley says

      I can definitely see how it would be important to have someone to balance you out. That last sentence is hilarious!

  10. says

    I got lucky and my husband is a trainer and has been into fitness all his adult life. It helps me out a lot because I know he’s working harder than I am so I want to at least match his effort. I agree that people should talk about fitness more in the dating time of a relationship.

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