Happy Sunday! Mine started out rather perfectly. Maddux slept all night, which is something he hasn’t done since he got his shots a while back. We all snuggled up for a minute before heading downstairs for Christmas in July! Wow, y’all. This is seriously my second child. 😉
**EDITED TO ADD: I think you should go into this post knowing that I 100% support the goal of having a healthy, fit pregnancy. It’s definitely the best thing for you and your baby. I am 100% against someone saying they look a certain way because they had a fit pregnancy. While remaining active and eating well during pregnancy definitely help with recovery, there are so many more factors that lead to postpartum appearance. It’s not necessarily a causal relationship. A woman with the healthiest attitude and actions during her pregnancy can have a very difficult postpartum journey, while someone who didn’t can snap right back. You cannot tell if someone had a “fit pregnancy” by a photo of their belly. It’s ludicrous (definitely spelled that like the rapper the first go round, haha) to assume that you can. I’m saying all of this, though, based on my definition of “fit”, which is based more on health than appearance. Obviously, if your definition differs, then you may not agree with me.**
So, recently a few bloggers have shown some pictures of themselves very soon after having their babies. It’s a beautiful thing to see people so confident right after having a child; however, I have issues with some of the phrasing being flippantly tossed around.
“I bounced right back, because I had a fit pregnancy.”
That’s amazing. It truly is. That being said, how thin you are post-baby is not proof of having a fit pregnancy. I’m sorry. It just isn’t. The weight you gain or don’t gain isn’t a true indicator, either.
Here is a scenario:
Woman number one gains 50 pounds, while jogging, eating whole foods, and allowing for treats one in a while. She has to work her butt off post-baby, but she had a fit pregnancy.
Woman number two gains 15 pounds, while occasionally lifting weights, eating decent meals, and indulging often. She feels back to normal a month after having her child, but she had a fit pregnancy.
Who is to say who did it “right”? I know it’s not up to me.
What I’m trying to say is, don’t feel discouraged when you see someone “bounce back” immediately. Even though they claim they had a “fit pregnancy”, you don’t know what they did behind the scenes. Sure, they could be right. Maybe they did make healthy choices throughout the pregnancy. However, they also could have unhealthily restricted their eating when it wasn’t public. Side note: just because someone posts a picture of a plate full of cookies, it doesn’t mean they actually ate the plate full of cookies (but that’s a whole ‘notha post I want to get to). They could have worked out way more than they mentioned. You only see a small slice of their lives, so you just don’t know. This isn’t just in regards to postpartum issues. This applies to everyone.
Try to remember this: Don’t let another person’s success ruin yours. Don’t get wrapped up in the hype, because that’s all it really is.
There are many, many, many different versions of “fit”, and I actually think that many of the people we see that claim to be “fit” have very disordered thinking. I think our view on fitness can become very skewed. How your body feels is a way bigger factor than how your body looks. Some of the most ripped up dudes and ladies have the unhealthiest habits and mentalities. That’s why constantly comparing yourself to others can only do damage.
Be your version of fit. Be your version of healthy. Be your version of happy. (PS: That’s #WhatsBeautiful.)
You weren’t created with a cookie cutter, so don’t live like you were. Be you, and be proud of that.
I still want to post my final post-baby body update, because it’s part of my postpartum journey. I’m not making any claims with it, though. My way isn’t your way. My fit isn’t your fit. My body isn’t your body. And that’s a great thing. Another blogger recently discussed why she wasn’t going to post any of the body updates after having her son, and that’s amazing. Everyone makes decisions for themselves, ya know? Honestly, I started posting mine because I was frustrated with how I felt and looked. It was like therapy to share it with you guys. It took me months and months to “bounce right back”. 😉 I think that is an important story to share.
I want my struggles to be mixed in with the people who claim that the proof of a fit pregnancy is how thin you are a few weeks later. I want that juxtaposition. I want the differences there. Maybe you can see yourself in my story. Maybe you can’t. But I do know that it’s important that there are stories out there. I loved reading the posts of the different women post-baby. It gave me a sense of “shoot, we can do this together!” when all I wanted to do was eat donuts and cry on the couch. Oh, and I might be a little dramatic.
Anyway, I hope that anything I’ve ever shared on here hasn’t come across as boastful or arrogant. I really, really hope I’ve never come across that way, because that is not me. If anything, I struggle with reminding myself that others aren’t better than me for various reasons. I don’t think I have it right all the time. I’m not going to sit here and make claims one way or the other. I’m just going to share my story. That’s it.
And I really want to add that I don’t think any of the choices are truly wrong. Please don’t assume that I think any of the bloggers speaking like this have any malicious intent or are behaving inappropriately. I just really disagree with the phrasing and the way it’s being presented. If I’m being a complete hypocrite, feel free to let me know. I know it’s 100% possible! I also want to stress that the blogs are their blogs and they are free to post whatever they want. I’m not discounting anyone’s successes, either. I admire all women who choose to make healthy choices for themselves and their children. I just wanted to remind you all to take it all in with a grain of salt! If you did what was best for your baby (or for yourself if you’re not/weren’t pregnant) and you don’t have the same results, it doesn’t mean you aren’t healthy or fit.
Question: Did you make it through that ramble-fest? Did my overuse of italics throw you off? 😉
I hope y’all have a fantastic, relaxing Sunday! I might just skip a workout in honor of that statement (although a good workout can be very relaxing). 🙂